
Here are my ramblings on the beauty of staying home. Be warned that they truly are ramblings!! This is an adult version of "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie."
This morning my girls woke up excited that they didn't have anywhere to go. This past week they have been going to Taekwondo camp from 10am to 2pm and enjoyed it immensely. But last night when they were asking about what color t-shirt to wear to camp the next day, I told them there was no camp on Friday. Lots of squeals and smiles ensued.
"YEAH," said Anna, "now we can play all day."
And she was right. They have been out of the house more than they're used to. Yesterday, in addition to camp we drove around town delivering cookies to friends. By the time we were done, they only had an hour to play before attending TKO classes (different from camp BTW). After reading David Elkind's books
Miseducation: Preschoolers at Risk and
The Hurried Child, several years ago, I decided my kids would not be involved in too many outside activities. Quality vs. quantity. So currently we do piano and taekwondo. It sometimes changes every year (except for piano ... that's non-negotiable).
Anyways, I digress. This post is supposed to be about the beauty of staying home. I always thought this meant being a stay-at-home mom. But I used to be a stay-at-home mom that was running all over town with Isabelle and Anna. After Sophia and Kolbe were born (they're 15 mos apart) I had to stay home out of sheer necesity. I was bitter for a couple of years because I felt like I was missing out on all the fun activities I used to attend. Things like story time at the bookstore, shopping in the middle of the day, lunch in the afternoons, visiting with friends, attending morning talks at church, etc.
It wasn't until this past year that I have really come to enjoy staying home. I would rather stay home than go somewhere. I no longer feel self pity if I'm not socializing with other moms. My kids no longer whine about going out or visiting friends. Don't misunderstand me. We love to visit friends!! I'll accept almost any invitation! But it no longer bothers me when they don't come as often as I used to want because I enjoy staying home and seeing my kids play.
My teaching style would probably be that of
Maria Montessori. Montessori always used to say that a child's work is play. I wholeheartedly agree!!! I'm not an unschooler, but I also don't think children should only be doing schoolwork/chores all day. They need lots of time to play. Or else they forget how. They lose their imaginations and they become restless, boring creatures who need to be entertained.
When Isabelle was 3 yo I started collecting dress up clothes. She's now 8 yo and we have a very HUGE assortment of clothes. They have lots of other toys and there's a place for everything. Just like in Montesorri schools, they take out what they would like to work with and return it to its place when they're done.
I tried reading Charlotte Mason and other styles. But Montessorri fits me like a glove. So we have LOTS of toys. And that's okay. As long as they put it back where it belongs. My girls understand this and I see it as a useful life skill. We're still working on it with Kolbe. ;-)
Back to staying home .... so they've been gone most of the day this week and I've really been missing them. Feeling a little guilty too. They've been enjoying themselves sooo much that what if they don't want to stay home on Friday?? What if staying home now seems boring??
Well, today they have been having a fun time. They've missed staying home. I know this because Anna and Belle have said so several times!! Today they played with their
St. Therese paper dolls for over an hour (while I was cutting out more outfits). After putting them away they went to dress up as St. Therese and family and are playing outside in their dress up clothes.
Its okay if they have outside activities like VBS or TKO camp every once in a while. But I realize that its my job to preciously guard their play time. Because I'm guarding their imaginations and extending their childhood that much longer. Part of that entails just staying home. And so I run errands in the afternoon. Actually, I don't have errands. Other than grocery shopping once a week there aren't any errands to run. What else is there??
I could talk about this topic ad nauseum!! My belief about play time is at the core of my thinking, thanks to Montessorri and Elkind. We used to know a family in College Station that we spent LOTS of time visiting. At the time she had 6 children and four of them were older than Belle. Her kids were LOUD and really knew how to play. They had LOTS of dress up clothes and even though some of her kids were in the 7th grade or 5th grade they STILL enjoyed playing dress up. We visited them in Kansas over 2 years ago and although two were in high school, they still played dress up with the little ones. In addition to not having cable, she had read Montessorri and was the person who introduced me to Montessori for the first time. I'm so grateful she did.
FWIW, here's a website I found about
Montessori and Catholic homeschooling. I haven't had time to read all of it yet, but it looks promising.
Also, as I was looking up links for Elkind's books, I saw he just came out with a new book this month!! Guess what its called?
Power of Play!! Oh my! I haven't read anything new by him in a long time. I'm still waiting a few years for Belle to get bigger before I read his book on teenagers. I guess I found an errand to run after all! Or I could just stay home and order this book online! ;-)
Review for Power of Play.